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Dear Prudence: The “Bidet and Boujee” Edition

Now that we own a bidet, my boyfriend refuses to buy toilet paper for the house. Help!

First up: A movie franchise is trying to gaslight Prudie. Then, onto your letters, with guest Max Thornton: I consider myself a pretty progressive mom, but I don’t understand the gender fluidity movement. I asked my friend not to drink with my alcoholic parents, but she told my mom I didn’t want them hanging out. My friend told me I was too fat to be in her wedding. A dear friend ghosted me a year ago and is trying to get back in touch. I’m hurt that the wives of my fiancé’s friends are ditching our wedding. And finally: I bought my boyfriend a bidet, and now he refuses to buy toilet paper!

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