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Dear Prudence: The “Anger Management” Edition

I secretly had a child with my pastor and gave her up for adoption. Do I tell her his name and ruin his life?

Mallory’s dad versus William Shatner. Then your questions:

  • How do I relate to a father who was absent and abusive while I was growing up and now demands regular, personalized gifts?
  • I had an affair with my pastor and gave up our daughter for adoption. Now she wants to meet him. Should I tell her his name and ruin his life?
  • My father enabled my mom’s abuse. Now she’s dead, and I can’t move past my anger.
  • And finally: How do I persuade my wife to let me quit my job to play poker?

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