Dear Prudence

Dear Prudence: The “Whaaaattt?!?” Edition

It turns out my friends are really racist.

How can you tell if the white guy you’re dating has an Asian fetish? A listener shares her guide. Then, Prudence and writer Brook Shelley get to your letters. A mixed-race letter writer is dismayed to wake up to a chain of racist texts—sent by her close friends. A letter writer is engaged in a cold war with her roommates, and another can’t get her co-worker to stop kissing her. Plus, the case of the Ambien zombie husband, and an Eartha Kitt fantasy.

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