Dear Prudence

Dear Prudence: The “Little Red Hen” Edition

A woman drops everything to move across the country for a relationship that didn’t work out—now what?

A woman dropped family, friends, and job to move across the country for a relationship that didn’t work out—and things got worse from there. Is she doomed to make poor decisions for the rest of her life?

A man dies, and his obituary lists a woman who barely remembers him as “the love of his life.” Should she try to find out what happened or let him take his secret to the grave?

A daughter mentioned long-term care insurance to her mom—and got an earful from her aunt about what a terrible person she is. Wait, what?


And finally, a nurse works 12 hours a day, then comes home and cares for her ungrateful family. Should she stay, should she go, or is there a middle path?


Dear Prudence and Slate’s Dan Kois consider these questions and issue some reminders: We’re all gonna die someday, and being a couple of hours late to a grown man’s birthday party is only a crime in the movies.

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