The last week of August brought us all a very special treat: one of the most obscenely misguided and generally wrongheaded blog posts ever to grace the World Wide Web, “How to Talk to a Woman Who Is Wearing Headphones.” If you’ve somehow managed to miss the scathing criticism making the rounds across the internet for the last few days, Slate’s L.V. Anderson has broken down exactly why Dan Bacon’s advice for attention-seeking men so abjectly terrible.
But there’s so much more to Bacon’s the Modern Man than just that one blog post.
“I’ll Show You Quick and Easy Ways to Instantly Experience More Success With Women” the website claims, but between overpriced books and incredibly bizarre testimonials to Bacon’s work, you’ll find an entire blog chock-full of advice that the dating “expert” was willing to part with free-of-charge. If you have lots of time to kill, all 80 some-odd pages are filled with the same sort of ham that you get in the post that went viral; but in order to save your sanity, we’ve broken down some of the craziest bits for easy consumption. Oh, and in case it’s not already clear—literally nothing this guy says is right or true.
If your girlfriend’s features closely resemble her mother’s, it’s a good bet that as she ages, she’s going to look more like her mother.
Look around for family photos. If her mother was a slim stunner when she was younger, but has put on more than a couple of pounds over the years and is really showing her age, yes, your girlfriend can easily develop those same physical traits without much effort.
This is definitely something to take into account so you don’t regret your choice of woman in the future.
If she talks about her children a lot, asks if you have children of your own or questions whether you want children someday, especially early in your conversation, chances are good that she’s looking for a husband/replacement father and is trying to weed out any men who won’t take on that role.
On the other hand, if she doesn’t mention her children until later in the conversation and acts as though she is single, then she’s probably just looking to have a one night stand or a casual relationship with you.
The three main reasons why men are so attracted to a woman’s breasts are:
1. It’s an obvious feminine feature.
2. It signals that she’s ready for breeding.
3. It’s something that we can show obvious attraction for her about.
Yet, the way it works for a woman is that she wants the sexual tension to build up first (this can be done during a 10-20 minute interaction or over a few days if you work or study with a woman) and she will then be open to having sex.
She wants to experience and enjoy sexual tension based on how the guy is behaving and managing the dynamic in the interaction between them. It’s exciting for her and it makes her want to kiss and have sex to release all the built up sexual tension.
Some guys don’t like that requirement though.
In the situations where a woman really doesn’t want to have sex, just stop trying at all – it’s not worth the hassle. Most of the time when a woman says “No” to sex, but doesn’t forcefully push you away, she just wants you to give her a little more time; whether that be two more minutes, two more hours, two days or two weeks.
A woman once refused sex with Stu (from the Modern Man team) after he pulled her back for sex from a nightclub. They had been kissing at the club and gone back to her place for sex. While kissing on her bed, Stu began to take off her bra and she stop, “Stop” so he did.
A few minutes later, they started kissing and groping each other again and he tried to take off her bra. She said, “No…I’m not taking off my bra.” What did Stu do? He got up, put on his clothes and began to walk out. She began begging him to stay, but he said that her behavior was out of line and that he was leaving.
She then tried to call him and get him to come back and have sex with her, but he just went and pulled another girl for a one night stand instead. He, like me, doesn’t put up with that sort of crap from women.
I understand that some women play hard to get when you’re escalating to sex on a first date, but when you pull her back from a nightclub and she behaves like that, it usually means she’s a bit crazy and wouldn’t be good girlfriend material.
Even if she’s been saying,“There’s nothing you can say or do that will make me change my mind,” she won’t be able to help herself from feeling drawn to you if you are actively making her feel a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
She will want to get back together with you because it feels good to interact with you now.
That’s how it works, regardless of how complicated the break up was or how much the guy stuffed up.
Even when a woman really likes a guy and is secretly hoping that he will approach her and talk to her, she will usually avoid making the first move, or even showing too much interest.
If she makes the first move, she will feel as though she taking on the role of the man, and if she is like most women, she will want him to take on that role, so that she can relax and feel like a feminine, girly woman in comparison to his masculinity.
Essentially, a woman expects a man to make the first move, and lead her from a conversation, to kissing, sex and a relationship.
If a guy can’t do that, then she assumes that he doesn’t have the kind of balls that she needs in a man to feel safe with him in this world.
Of course, you shouldn’t disregard everything that a woman says and assume that she means the opposite every time, but there is a lot of truth in the old saying, “Actions speak louder than words,” and a guy needs to learn how to read a woman’s body language to be able to understand what she’s really saying.
Of course, unattractive women usually like it when they meet an insecure, confused guy who doesn’t know how to attract women with his personality and behavior. They feel less worried about losing him to an attractive woman because he doesn’t know that in the human mating dance, it is women who have to look pretty…not men.
The thing is, a woman can feel attracted to a man’s appearance, but if it was the most important thing to women, the porn industry would have grown and exploded because of women wanting to look at naked men. Women would have been buying magazines with naked men and then masturbating to that.
…but, that’s just not how it works.