Ask a Homo: How to Handle a Straight Friend’s Assumption That All Gay Men Cheat?

Welcome back to Ask a Homo, a judgment-free zone where the queers of Outward answer questions about LGBTQ politics, culture, etiquette, language, and other conundrums. This week, our correspondent wonders how to respond to a straight friend who seems convinced that gay men are incapable of being monogamous.


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