Ask a Homo: How Do I Explain to My Friends That My Dad Is Now a Woman?

Welcome back to Ask a Homo, a judgment-free zone where the queers of Outward answer questions about LGBTQ politics, culture, etiquette, language, and other conundrums. Today, our correspondent wonders how to explain to his friends that the parent he grew up calling Dad has now transitioned.


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