Welcome back to Ask a Homo, a judgment-free zone where the gays of Outward answer questions about LGBTQ politics, culture, etiquette, language, and other queer conundrums. Today, we look at labels: Is LGBTQ a community one chooses to join, or is everyone who sleeps with a person of the same sex automatically gay, lesbian, or bisexual?
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Other Questions Asked of Homos:
What’s the deal with drag queens?
Why do some lesbians dress like guys?
Do gay men have more fun than straight men?
Is it OK to ask if someone is gay?
Are gayborhoods dying out?
Why do lesbians make out in public?
Why do some gays not believe in bisexuality?
Should allies signal their support of LGBTQ people to strangers?
Why do so many gay people love Joan Rivers?
What does queer mean?
How should I greet a closeted co-worker’s partner?
Why do gay men like musical theater?
Is it OK for straight women to talk about their “girl crushes”?
What was the best time in history to be gay?
Do lesbian couples always reflect a butch-femme dynamic?
Why is bitchiness encouraged among gay men?
What do lesbians think of LUGs—lesbians until graduation?