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Posted
Thursday, January 07, 2010 5:07 PM
| By
Jessica Grose
The New York Times published an article
yesterday on how social media complicate relationships when a couple
shares passwords. To share or not to share has been a point of
contention in relationships at least since the '90s, when Seinfeld's George
Costanza is bullied into giving up his ATM password to a girlfriend
(it's Bosco). Now that everyone needs a password for her phone, her
e-mail, her Netflix account, her Facebook, and her Twitter, the
pressure to share passwords is even more intense. How do we redefine
dating etiquette in the digital era? DoubleX contributors debate:
Jessica Grose: My fiance knows my various passwords
and I know his. I would never, ever, ever, even if I suspected he was
cheating, go into his e-mail, search his chats, read his facebook
messages, etc., and I know that he would give me the same courtesy. I
would not share such things with someone I wasn't getting married to,
but I have no desire to know what he says about me to his friends, even
if it's complimentary. It's like reading someone's diary—always better
not to. I wouldn't even want to know what my exes said about me to
friends! It's so masochistic ... (Read the rest of this article in DoubleX.)