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Tuesday, June 30, 2009 - Posts

  • White Men and Asian "Babes"


    Over at Slate, Johann Hari has a fascinating essay on The East, the West, and Sex, the "strange new book"—Hari's words—by journalist Richard Bernstein, which details the centuries-old history of Western men seeking out a little strange in the East ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

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  • Sarah Palin's Uneasy Relationship with the Truth


    There are many things that I find deeply upsetting about Sarah Palin. But in the new Vanity Fair assessment of Palin's current place in the political universe, the most disturbing thing Todd Purdum reveals is her inability to discern or care about the truth:

    At one point, trying out a debating point that she believed showed she could empathize with uninsured Americans, Palin told McCain aides that she and Todd in the early years of their marriage had been unable to ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
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  • Julia Childs' Height Was Not a Handicap


    A guest post from Arianne Cohen, author of The Tall Book: A Celebration of Life From On High.

    At every public appearance I make, someone raises his hand and says something like, “It’s much harder to be a tall woman than a tall man, right?” This point of view was echoed in the current issue of The New Yorker: A story about the director Nora Ephron opens with a quote about being tall from Meryl Streep, who is playing 6-foot-2 Julia Child in the forthcoming movie Julie & Julia. "I mean, it's like having club foot ... it was a handicap of sorts, certainly in the world where she was born," Streep says.

    Yes, being tall has its challenges. I know, I'm 6-foot-3. But at its heart, the constant struggle of height is that to be tall is to be public, the constant sense of walking around with a spotlight on you. There's no place to hide, and that's genderless. Tall men are every bit as self-conscious as tall women.

    Tall women’s struggles are more subtle. You’re not aware of this unless you’re tall, but there’s a vortex of silence around tall female public figures, and a total dearth of tall female role models. Sure, there are lots of very successful tall women out there. But you probably don’t know ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)

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  • Does Miscarriage Belong in a Comedy?


    I agree with you, Dahlia, about the pole dance of grief in Away We Go: The amateur night performance of barren Melanie Lynskey (Munch Garnett), while riveting and poignant, indeed seemed like it belonged in a different movie. Like Dana, I thought the quirky, uneven road movie had some great moments along the hapless, mapless, trip of expecting parents seeking their adult selves. For example, Maya Rudoph was a pitch perfect Verona, asking her goofy but loveable boyfriend, Burt (John Krasinki), “Are we fuck-ups?” (My husband, who usually is a good sport about chick flicks, audibly conceded that indeed they could be.)

    When miscarriage and profound disappointment were added to the narrative, though, the couple’s journey became about more than simply growing up the hard way. Perhaps director Sam Mendes ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
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  • Ponder This, Parents of Pop


    Reading Hanna's and Dana's posts about a Swedish couple's attempts to raise a gender-free child, I’m struck by how pointless it is for parents to try to program their children.

    Of course, I think it's awesome and essential that parents make a conscious effort to raise open-minded kids (by discussing the sort of issues that Emily Bazelon and John Dickerson addressed in their piece about childrens' responses to Obama becoming president, for example), but there are some things you just can't control—like how other people respond to your child.

    I'm sure my parents were less than thrilled that strangers referred to me as ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
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  • Al Franken Wins (Or At Least He Should)


    The Minnesota Supreme Court just ruled 5-0 that Al Franken is the winner of the contested 2008 Minnesota Senate race, by 312 votes out of 2.9 million cast. Finally, right? Minnesota has been down one senator for almost half a year. That's already too long. The state shouldn't have to half sit out the summer's big business on Capitol Hill: health care, the energy bill, and the confirmation hearings for Judge Sotomayor.

    But there's one avenue left for Norm Coleman, Franken's Republican opponent, and that's a federal lawsuit. From a legal standpoint, such a suit would be ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
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  • Is "Gender-Free" Child-rearing a Form of Child Abuse?


    Hanna’s post about the Swedish couple who are attempting to raise their child “gender-free” (not telling anyone its birth sex or permitting the genitals to be seen by anyone but a select few intimates) has had me thinking all day about the chicken-and-egg problem of gender identification. Do I think the category of gender is more constructed than the dominant culture gives it credit for? Definitely. Does the parenting of this couple horrify me? Completely.

    Hanna, your analogy (to a “militant feminist friend” who tried unsuccessfully to make her daughter play with trucks) doesn’t quite hold up; in terms of the violence visited on the kid’s sense of self, the Swedish family’s choice to conceal the fact of gender altogether seems infinitely worse. Being told by your parents that you should ... (Read more at DoubleX.com.)
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